How do I use the Why to build a team or to choose close relationships?

We are social animals and so the people we spend time with will directly impact how we feel enjoyment.

We get out of life and so the kinds of people we hire and the kinds of people we're friends with it's important to manage both really carefully are you friends with people because they're rich or they're good-looking how good are those relationships.

Sure, it's nice to have them stand next to you in sure it might be nice to go and drive in their nice car now then but do you rely on them can you trust them do they trust you do they come to you is that a genuine friendship or two the only reason you see these people is because you're the only one investing time and energy and seeing them and they would never call you if you never called them those aren't real friendships those aren't really fulfilling relationships.

When you know why you do what you do and someone encourages and inspires and pushes you to do those things and likewise you are encouraged you want to encourage or inspire someone else for no other reason than you just want to see them successful that is where a real friendship exists the same is true at work I always like to say that hiring somebody at work is like adopting a child right.

How are you going to adopt a child you're just gonna read a resume of what they're like and maybe you know to see what kind of toys they like playing with or what subjects they're good at and then you're gonna say yeah I want that kid to join my family no it's gonna be a slow methodical process you want to spend time with the kid you want to get to know the kid don't forget you're gonna let this child into your home you're gonna leave them at home by themselves with your stuff you may even give them responsibility to look after your other children well guess what you do with employees.

It's exactly like adopting a child and the process of letting that person into your culture into your family should be slow and methodical so that you can be sure that this person will respect your stuff be a good part of the family and even do right by your other kids by your fellow by your comrades and fellow employees it is that important this is our family that we need to protect these are our friends these are the people we spend time with day in and day out and we need to be really really careful who we choose to spend our time with